Many couples today enter into marriage with little or no preparation. So after a few years of marriage, things can start to unravel, especially when children come along. Most couples married one another because they believed the other could meet their needs and satisfy their desires. When they realize this is not the case, the fighting and the blame game starts and they find themselves falling out of love….and believing their marriage was a mistake.
In our ministry, we are dedicated to helping people build strong, healthy marriages through a biblical perspective. We stress the importance of seeking God first every day and by reading his word and meditating on it. It is God, not your spouse, who will meet your deepest needs for acceptance, identity, security and purpose. Most of us have no clue how to be a good wife or a good husband or what it even means. We’re here to help you learn how to love and respect your mate and how to put their needs and wants before your own. This is agape love—loving another more than oneself.
God designed and desired couples to live in a pleasurable and fulfilling relationship. When God designed the marriage covenant, He did so with the intent that this commitment between a man and a woman would be more important than any other human relationship. All we have to do is look in His word for His instructions for a successful marriage. God’s foundational laws for marriage can be found in the following scripture:
“For this cause, a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.” (Genesis 2:24-25)
In addition to counseling couples from a traditional standpoint and discussing ways to address issues in their marriages, we also offer couples the opportunity to view our Family Life Video Series. This is a six-hour video conference series complete with individual workbooks and discussion time. The program is offered over a six-week time frame, allowing an hour for each session. This series has been helpful to both engaged couples and to couples who have been married for a number of years.
One of the most important things we stress to couples is that the covenant of marriage is not to be taken lightly. When they took their marriage vows with one another and with God, it was supposed to be “till death do us part.” God does not believe in divorce. He wants every marriage to work and to be fruitful. We have to fix ourselves individually with the help of the Holy Spirit, before we can fix our marriage. By changing ourselves and admitting our shortcomings to our spouse, our marriage will be transformed. When one spouse sees the changes in the other, it will encourage them to change as well.
“He sent His word and healed them, and delivered them from their destructions.” (Psalms 107:20)
“But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you.” (John 14:26, NIV)
Let us help you build a legacy by being an example for your children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren and the generations to come as they witness your loving and enduring marriage.